File under “reasons my girlfriend is awesome”
feeling vs fighting jealousy
I think this would make an adorable triad ring.
(Finding goodies under the poly search on Pinterest).
“When we tell the truth about who we are, what we need and want, and how we feel, it helps us feel connected to people and form deep bonds with them. Telling the truth is not always easy, especially when you feel that the disclosure will hurt someone you love. But withholding information to protect someone you love is not only unfair to them, it is counterproductive to the relationship.
I really just say what is not being said. It is what you are not saying that is getting in the way of everything. —Dillon
Many of the people I spoke to said that when their partners share information with them, they feel informed and in the loop. Knowing what’s going on makes them feel more secure about their relationship and more connected to their partner. Many say that they feel the most insecure, jealous, and anxious when they don’t know what is up. What often happens is that they use their imagination to fill in the blanks, fear and irrationality come into play, and they make something into what it is not or imagine the worst-case scenario.”
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino (via thingsivelearnedfrombeingopen)
what is needed for an open relationship to work? do you think they can last?
What is needed, is an awareness of personal ability to secure desirable circumstances, rather than dependency on the consideration of one’s significant other. A discipline to not romanticize parasitic dynamics, in favor of owning oneself and taking responsibility for one’s feelings and circumstances. A willingness to remain consistently honest with oneself, rather than submitting to denial for the sake of convenient security.
*These would also happen to be the trademarks of any healthy, independent human being, which I think says a lot.
So, I know I’ve been off for a while and plenty of stuff has happened, BUT before I get to any of that I feel the need to share these. I was down at the beach with my husband and my family an while going along the boardwalk I found this shirt design.
I absolutely fell in love with it. Not only is it rainbow, and say love but it is also in the infinity loop. So to me it’s like a polyamory symbol and I love it. I know it’s suppose to be a heart surrounded by the infinity loop but I still love this and it still makes me think of polyamory.
AND it’s rainbow which makes me feel so wonderful because I have a husband. Yay!!! ^_^ I just really felt the need to share this.