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Spiritual growth

abundance-mine:

Spiritual growth means literally the making for you of a new mind which not only believes differently, but whose workings will bring altogether different and better results as regards health and fortune than the old mind and the old self which must be gradually rooted out and destroyed.

——Prentice Milford,”Your forces and how to use them”

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Jessica Kingham

starfire2012:

Polyamory Pride Heart    
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starfire2012:

Polyamory Pride Heart    

Available on Zazzle         

Available on Cafe Press    

My mom won't accept that I am poly even though everyone in my quad sat down with her together. We made her dinner at our house to explain that we're not "just roommates." The evening seemed to go well, but ever since then she just keeps making these weird comments about choosing one of them, or moving beyond all of them to find the "right one" before I "get too old to settle down properly." What will it take for her to see us for what we are?

Anonymous

ask-pauli-amorous:

Side note: I must admit that the first time I read this, I thought you said “squad,” and I thought it was a neat nickname for a poly family!

The answer, summarized in one word, is: Time. Time, especially when coupled with with loving transparency, is what most people need to come to an understanding of something new in their loved ones, especially when that thing is new to their idea of society and the world. You’ve started off on the right foot in my opinion. The way you came out demonstrated first hand the type of family your quad is.

Coming to terms with this can be extra difficult for people who have trouble adjusting their views of how the world works. Your mother presumably spent her whole life believing (due cultural pressures) that love is when two people devote themselves to one another, pledge loyalty, and never so much as glance in another person’s direction with romance, sex, or other thoughts of that genre in mind. For some people, that really is the definition of romantic love. For others, it’s not. To come to terms with your relationship format, your mother must first go on a personal journey which culminates in the realization that everything she knows about the human heart is only true under certain conditions. That’s a really scary thing to face.

"Sure," you say, "But as you said, I demonstrated first hand what my relationship really is!" That’s true. You did. When a person’s entire worldview is threatened, it’s amazing the sorts of mental tricks they can play on themselves to rationalize what they’ve witnessed. The only way to surmount that is to keep showing her. Maintain transparency with your mother, and eventually, she may just understand.

Good luck!

-Pauli

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jolteonerrex502:

brothertedd:

Before and After Video Effects – Movies

Let us take a moment to appreciate all the effects people who create these things and the actors who make you believe them.

It got so much better

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9 good signs you are in the right relationship

How do I know if I’m in the right relationship or not?”

This is one of the most common questions our coaching clients ask us. And after Angel and I listen to the specifics of their situation, we often toss a question back at them to further clarify their thoughts and expectations. For instance:

“What do you think a “right relationship” should provide for the people in it?”

Although the answer here is obviously subjective, in all relationships, romantic and platonic alike, there are some clear signs that things are going well. So today, let’s take a look at some signs you’re in the “right relationship,” and corresponding tips that could potentially help you make a “wrong relationship” right:

1. No games are being played.

Far too often, we make our relationships harder than they have to be. The difficulties started when… conversations became texting, feelings became subliminal, sex became a game, the word “love” fell out of context, trust faded as honesty waned, insecurities became a way of living, jealously became a habit, being hurt started to feel natural, and running away from it all became our solution. Stop running! Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve it.

And of course, if you feel like someone is playing games with you, speak up.

2. Everyone is on the same page.

If a woman starts out all casual with a man and she doesn’t tell him that she wants a committed relationship, it will likely never become a committed relationship. If you give someone the impression that casual, or whatever, is okay with you, that’s what will be assumed going forward. The bottom line is that you have to be straight from the start, or at least as soon as you know what you want. Don’t beat around the bush. If someone gets scared and runs away because you were honest and set boundaries, that person wasn’t right for you anyway.

3. The line of communication is open, honest, and clear.

You can’t be afraid to have certain conversations. It’s better to talk and find out the truth, than to keep going and get nowhere. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t expect the important people in your life to read your mind, and don’t play foolish games with their heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect them to trust you when the full truth comes out – half-truths are no better than lies.

Listen without defending and speak without offending. Communication isn’t just an important part of a relationship, it is the relationship. Relationships often fail because of trust issues, commitment issues, and above all, communication issues. So be honest, commit, and COMMUNICATE always. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

4. Loving deeds consistently reinforce loving words.

Nurture your important relationships so that when you tell the people you love that you love them, it’s merely a ritualistic validation of what you have already shown them by how you treat them on a daily basis. Do little things every day to show your loved ones you care. Knowing that the person you’re thinking of has you on their mind too means a lot.

Truth be told, you can say “sorry” a thousand times, or say “I love you” as much as you want, but if you’re not going to prove that the things you say are true, they aren’t. If you can’t show it, your words are not sincere. It’s as simple as that. And there’s no such thing as a “right” relationship that isn’t sincere at both ends….

library-lessons:

Or reading them, either.

library-lessons:

Or reading them, either.

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wit-and-sexuality:

Think about it.

wit-and-sexuality:

Think about it.